Thanks for the replies, I do spend a HUGE amount of time looking for stuff and a lot of what I find is contradictory and other stuff is not helpful or out of data, just so we all know I am not looking for a free ride or someone to write code for me!
one issue I find is terminology, every language seems to call every component of the language something different, no help there, make searching for things very hard work and time consuming, as I am sure everyone has experienced.
maybe I should have also given a narrower brief.
I am looking at using ONLY Netbeans IDE, which I suppose limits the audience (in this forum) somewhat.
the FX scene looks a great concept, but adds complexity to my learning process that RIGHT NOW I would try to miss, I hope to use only the bare IDE if at all possible for all functionality I can garner, same as I have always done in xojo, no third party plugins in any code, not to be clever, I just prefer to work with the default tools unless completely unable.
After posting this topic I did start to mess about within Netbeans a little more.
I have now found I can add any number of jPanel to a window and by double clicking them in ‘Navigator’ I can add panel specific components to them and edit them in the IDE as I had hoped.
in code I then am just making them xor visible and it does basically the same from a user view as the page panel does in xojo.