Well “nothing but insults and hate” is a bit overblown IMO. There are tutorials here, and plenty of civil discussion. There are a handful of wankers, just like anywhere.
I suppose people coming here for x-plat discussion probably tire of the constant grousing about Xojo but in fairness that was one of the reasons this site was created, to allow free discussion of such things not possible on the company-sponsored site.
The only thing I don’t like is the handful of threads that have devolved into touche-kicking contests and in my experience the best way to handle those is to step in and remind people to keep it on-topic and take personal disputes to DMs. If there’s a way to shut down a thread that goes off the rails, doing that a few times will put a big dent in the problem. Sure it truncates the discussion for anyone who was participating in that thread in good faith but in the main they will understand. And they can always start a new thread to carry on the non-dick-waving part of the original thread.
I’ve seen this used to good effect on other forum sites. Close the thread to comments, make it read only, if it goes off the deep end.